Friday, May 16, 2008

What is LOVE?


Probably the toughest question ever been answered by anyone. From ages many answers have been coming for this seemingly simple question…….but what is the exact answer? Time and again many people have tried to give their own definitions for this simple four letter word LOVE….but what I feel is Love cannot be described as it is something which cannot be bound with a few words, it is a feeling that has to be felt and experienced .
There are only three relationships in this world who can do anything for you without any expectation.

1) Your Mother :She’s the best ,no matter you are poor, you are ugly ,you are handicapped what stands out anytime in any situation is mothers love and no match to it.
2) Your Father: Who is the reason for you being in this world .
3) Your True Love( R ) : Someone who loves you sincerely and truly.

Many people think of other relations like brother, sister, friend, best friend etc but all these relations they can stand for you up to an extent only, after that extent what comes in-between is their loved ones or their family. I don’t say that this is a generalized statement but in most cases around 95 % this one would hold good.
When I say Love what was the need for me to add a prefix true to it ???? Because now a days people are killing in the name of Love.
can this be termed as love ? I don’t think so and definitely this is not LOVE.

Love means trust. Love means being there for your companion in all situations ,No matter the whole world turns against you, still being with your loved ones and fighting all odds out that’s the sort of courage that love imparts and ignites in ones self,but not the sort of foolishness to kill the person or hurt the person whom u say u are in love with.
Who should be blamed for all this situation ?

Movies ? The easiest target for everyone on this front is Movies…….but our movies are the only cause for this ?

No…………its also on the front of a boys and girls, the mistake lies with both of them.
Penning down some points which I feel people should realize:

BOYS : The main thing a boy should learn is the usp of the word I LOVE YOU………it says I love you but it doesn’t put any condition that the opposite person should also respond to it in an equivalent manner. Try to face the rejection with honour , Love happens and its not in our hands to control it ,but going overboard and taunting the girl etc, these things are in our own hands, these things are no good for any society and for yourself and your family also,so face the rejection in an honourable manner. Its no disgrace being rejected,it’s the misfortune of the girl for missing your love.

Girls: There is a dialogue in one of the recent telugu movie that is releasing which goes like this “ Mee aadavallanthaa inthey , dabbunu chusi premistaaru kaani manasuni chusi premincharu,mosam cheyyadam ledaa mosa povatam anthey kaani preminchadam maatram teleedu” . I feel its so apt and true for the present scenario. For people who cant understand telugu what the dialogue means is :
“ Sab ladkiyaan aise hee hoti hai,paisa dekh ke pyaar karti hai naa ke dil,dhoka denaa yaa dhokaa khaanaa hee aata hai lekin pyaar karnaa nahin “. This is what I am seeing in most of the cases.Many of the girls these days are having this attitude of “Bill tumhaara –thrill hamaara” . Telling you this is the worst attitude and its gonna backfire on you someday.

Girls please don’t fall in for a guy for his money or for his showoffs, try seeing and learning the innerself of a guy,When ever a guy truly loves you it shows in his eyes,there will always be a special sort of glitter in his eyes when you are in front of him. And for God’s sake never loose a person who truly loves you.


For People who are already in LOVE :
Its the hardest thing to get the love of the person whom you also LOVE and since you have already got it try to have it for the remaining life rather than loosing it for some silly ego problems and reasons.
When two of you are in love,you both constitute a single entity and don’t let rise to any ego feelings of your partner being more famous than you or more popular than you,be proud of the fact that such a famous and successful entity loves you and try respecting this fact. Another problem that arises is the problem of being possessive or to say over possessive…….this is a tough situation and it needs to be very carefully handled by the pair in love,better they talk through it and by respecting some points put forward by your parter this one can be solved. Happiness the main thing that anyone requires in this world,try learning what things give happiness to your loved ones even they can be very trivial and try doing those,respect the views and opinions of your partner,if you need to correct them at sometime do it in a polite manner rather than being offensive. Spread your love and get love from your partner as well.
As I said Love means standing for your beloved ones and fighting the whole world for them……let me quote an example from the recent news bulletin of Times of India which shows what love is all about and what courage love gives: Read it as below :


AHMEDABAD: They met on a passenger train, while travelling together every morning from home in Viramgam to work in Ahmedabad and back in the evening. They fell in love, got married and have embarked on a journey of life that dares the jaws of death!

This is the love story of Rajiv, a healthy young man, and Dipali a widow with two kids. She is also HIV-positive. She says that after marriage, she falls ill less often.A couple of years ago, Dipali's first husband, a driver, was admitted to hospital with a terminal illness. The illness was diagnosed as AIDS and Dipali was asked to undergo a test as well. The result turned out to be as expected — Dipali was HIV-positive.

Dipali, her husband and two children were shunted off to a separate floor of the house and treated as untouchables by her in-laws. All hell broke loose when Dipali's husband died. Her in-laws started taunting her, beating her up, wishing she would leave.

It is then that Dipali started work with 'Adhaar', an agency working with HIV-positive people in Ahmedabad. She would take the Viramgam local every morning at 7.30, just like Rajiv, a supervisor at a shirt manufacturing unit. The journeys together got them talking and Dipali shared her travails with Rajiv. Friendship bloomed into love and one day, when Dipali was beaten black and blue by her in-laws, Dipali shared with Rajiv her only option - to leave for Mumbai to get into prostitution for which a pimp had offered to pay Rs 1.5 lakh. "I proposed to her, asking her to ditch her unhappy life and be happy with me. I knew she was HIV-positive but that didn't make any difference. We all have to die one day," says Rajiv. Today, Dipali is a happy homemaker living with Rajiv and her elder son - the younger one stays with her in-laws. Asked Rajiv if he ever fears contracting the virus, he says, "We are careful and I get myself tested every six months. But if I do, I will accept it as a gift of love from my wife."

Source : http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/His_love_is_blind__HIV-positive/articleshow/3037976.cms

I feel it has been a lengthy blog but I feel more can be written on this topic……so feel free to add any points that you feel would be good to this topic.Finally closing it wih this line : LOVE IS A FRIENDSHIP SET TO MUSIC : so hit the right chords and enjoy the soothing music of LOVE.